Should You See a Sex Therapist? With Rachel Zar



Sex and relationships are among the most difficult topics to discuss, especially in conservative environments where sexual talk is shunned. Most women are ashamed to start having an intimate conversation with their partner, sacrificing their sexual happiness in the process. Who can they turn to for help without the fear of being shamed?

Welcome to the Scarlet Society podcast. In this episode, we have Rachel Zar, a couple and family therapist, and an AASECT-certified sex therapist. She practices an integrative, warm and direct approach based on current therapeutic and medical research. Her style is creative, non-judgmental, and collaborative, and she provides a safe place for her clients to talk about their situations without feeling judged. 

Join us as we talk about the common reasons people see a sex therapist and the answers to such concerns. Enjoy the episode!

“It’s not just a myth, but sex really can get better with age.”

– Rachel Zar

In This Episode:

00:00 Meet Rachel Zar, AASECT-certified sex therapist

02:55 What exactly does a sex therapist do, and how does Rachel’s practice differ from traditional therapy or other forms of treatment?

04:16 Is there still a stigma around talking about sex, or is society more open to this aspect today?

06:20 How to start broaching the topic of sex therapy to your partner

11:40 The most common reasons people see a sex therapist 

20:05 What can long-term couples do to rekindle the fire 

24:15 Is there anything in your life that is not scheduled? Then, there’s no reason you should not schedule intimacy with your partner, like any other important things you put on your calendar

27:10 A few more pieces of advice to keep your sexual relationship fun and exciting 

31:10 How to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies

36:49 What response do you expect when sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner?

38:34 Rachel shares some advice for women over 40 regarding sexual health and well-being



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We are here to normalize women’s sexual health and wellness after 40, without apology.

It’s time to elevate the way we address sex in the second half of life and lift it out of society’s shadows. We’re tired of the stigma and secrecy. We’re frustrated with the lack of credible information. And we’re ready to reclaim women’s sexuality.